Terri
Thampan
M.S.51 804 English Language Arts
The Dangers of Love
Love
is usually portrayed as a good thing. It’s made out to be something that is
needed in order to survive. But, not always is it portrayed in this positive
view. In William Shakespeare’s play “Romeo and Juliet”, he portrays love as
something that leads to depression and/or self-destruction. Shakespeare shows
that platonic love, as well as romantic love, leads to tragedy.
Shakespeare uses the romantic love between
Romeo and Juliet to show love in a negative light. Romeo and Juliet’s love is
the main plot of the story, but it is also the cause for them to face much
grief. When Romeo is exiled from Verona, both are heartbroken and depressed by
the news, thinking that they will never see each other again. Juliet voices her
grief by saying, “O God, I have an ill-divining soul! / Methinks I see thee,
now thou art so low, / As one dead in the bottom of a tomb. / Either my eyesight
fails of thou lookest pale.” (Romeo and Juliet 3.5.54-57) and, “Wash they his
wounds with tears? Mine shall be/ spent, / when theirs are dry, for Romeo’s
banishment.” (Romeo and Juliet 3.2.141-143) Romeo also talks of his pain by
saying, “Thou canst not speak of that thou dost not feel. / Wert thou as young
as I, Juliet thy love, / An hour but married, Tybalt murdered, / Doting like me,
and like me banished, / the mightiest thou tear thy/ hair/ and fall upon the ground
as I do now.” (Romeo and Juliet 3.3.67-73) They are both very much affected
negatively by the forced separation. This love for each other causes them to
feel depressed, possibly mad (in Romeo’s case), and full of grief over the
thought of never seeing each other again. The burden of knowing that she will
never see her love again (and that she will be forced to marry another man)
causes Juliet to desire for death. Friar Lawrence prevents Juliet from committing
suicide by devising a plan to reunite the two lovers. This plan involves Juliet
staging her own death and then having Romeo come and whisk her away from the
tomb (as she is still alive and only pretending to be dead) so they can live a fulfilling
life full of love and each other far from Verona. Unfortunately, the
perpetration of this plan went disastrously, and ends with the untimely demise
of both young lovers.
Shakespeare also uses the one sided
romantic love Romeo had for Rosaline to show how love can attribute to causing
unhappiness, and one’s path in destroying themselves. Before Romeo had met his
beloved Juliet, he was infatuated with a woman named Rosaline. Rosaline had
dedicated her life to celibacy (which causes speculation on her becoming a
nun), which meant she was not swayed by Romeo’s advances. Seeing that his love
was not reciprocated caused Romeo to fall into a depression in which he would
stay locked in his room in the dark and only goes outside to wander around
idly. He tells his friend Benvolio, “In sadness, cousin, I do love a woman.”
(Romeo and Juliet 1.1.212) and "She hath forsworn to love, and in that vow
/ Do I live dead that live to tell it now" (Romeo and Juliet 1.1.223-224)
This negative change in demeanor causes Romeo’s friends to worry for him, and
so they try to make him forget about Rosaline. “By giving liberty unto thin
eyes. / Examine other beauties.” (Romeo and Juliet 1.1.235-236) says Benvolio.
Benvolio tells Romeo to go to the feast where he will see someone far better
than Rosaline, “But in that crystal scales let there be weighed/ Your lady’s
love against some other maid/ That I will show you shining at the feast, / And
she shall scant show well that now seems best.” (Romeo and Juliet 1.3.103-105)
Romeo’s friends take him to Capulet ball where he falls for Juliet. Romeo’s
failing love leads him not only to depression, but to the love that ends his
life.
Shakespeare also shows the sadness caused by
platonic love through the mediums of Mercutio and Lady Montague. In the play,
Mercutio is believed to be one of Romeo’s dearest friends. When Romeo’s honor
is insulted, he gets into a brawl with Tybalt. But I’ll be hanged, sir, if he wear your
livery. / Marry, go before to field, he’ll be your follower. / Your worship in
that sense may call him “man.” (Romeo and Juliet 3.1.58-60) His love for his
friend caused him (Mercutio) to be slain. Lady Monatgue, the mother of Romeo,
dies as well from love. In the play, she is said to have died from grief over
the exile of her son. “Alas, my leige, my wife is dead tonight. / Grief of my
son’s exile hath stopped her breath” (Romeo and Juliet 5.3.218-219) The
platonic love both held for Romeo ended up being the reason for their demise.
Romeo and Juliet is a story that shows the
dangers of love. Love, which is often shown as something good, is instead
portrayed as something destructive and harmful. But as human beings, we all
crave for love at one point in our lives. Despite the devastating endings it
causes, it’s a beautiful thing while it lasts. It might just be in our nature,
the ability to love and to be loved might just be what makes us human. Love is
important in all lives, no matter how positively or negatively it affects us.